elping children and adolescents develop emotional regulation is one of the most important life skills adults can nurture. Emotional regulation doesn’t mean suppressing feelings—it means recognizing, understanding, and managing them in healthy ways. This ability develops over time and requires patience, consistency, and guidance.

Evelyn Sullivan, M.Ed.

Director of Early Childhood Education and R.E.A.C.H.

Evelyn Sullivan is the Director of Early Childhood Education for North American Division. She spent many years teaching young children to love to learn. She has combined her passion for teaching and administration to promote the importance of early childhood education.

 Children often act out when they don’t yet have the words to express what they’re feeling. Teaching them to name emotions—such as frustration, disappointment, or anxiety—can transform overwhelming experiences into more manageable ones. Simple practices, like asking “What are you feeling right now?” or using emotion charts, can make a meaningful difference.

Modeling is just as important. Children learn how to manage emotions by observing the adults around them. When parents or teachers respond calmly in stressful moments, they show that emotions can be handled without aggression or withdrawal. Conversely, frequent adult outbursts can unintentionally reinforce those same behaviors. Demonstrating how to pause, breathe, and respond thoughtfully offers a powerful, real-life example.

 also plays a key role. Children and teens need to feel that their emotions are valid, even when their behavior needs correction. Statements like “I see you’re upset” or “That sounds really frustrating” help them feel understood. Validation doesn’t mean agreement—it simply communicates that their feelings matter.

Equipping young people with practical coping strategies helps them navigate emotions with confidence. Simple tools like deep breathing, counting to ten, journaling, or taking a short break can ease overwhelming moments. For teenagers, in particular, movement, creative outlets, and talking with someone they trust can help them work through their feelings.

Consistency and structure play a key role in supporting emotional regulation. Predictable routines create a sense of stability, helping to reduce anxiety and emotional ups and downs. Clear expectations and boundaries also guide children toward appropriate behavior, even when emotions run high.

develops over time. Children and teenagers will make mistakes, and setbacks are a natural part of the process. Rather than focusing solely on discipline, these moments can be approached as opportunities for learning and growth. Calm, supportive conversations after an emotional episode can help them reflect on what happened and consider more constructive responses in the future.

By combining empathy, guidance, and practical tools, adults can help young people build lifelong emotional resilience—an essential skill for healthy relationships, decision-making, and overall well-being.